Hate.

I’ve often seriously considered where delusional, all consuming, hate stems from. We see it everyday through Social Media to the local market.

I understand that horrifying, terrifying or sad events can alter perspective…. and losses…. losses come in many forms. To lose someone, or something, unexpectedly …or at all…. manipulates our brains in ways that mankind (and therapists) strive to reach.

But, what of the Hate that a person, consciously decides upon? What purpose does it serve?

• Does it feel “good” in some way, or give personal satisfaction by “sticking it to the man” (whomever that man may be) ?
• Does it personally validate one’s true (or devised) calling in life?
• Is it a need, or perceived need?
• Is there a person or group that has personally affected you?
• Do you choose NOT to overcome the hatred or does it choose you?

Next: How does Hate affect those around us? Family, friends, animals.

• Do your loved ones share your hatred, or do they fear it? Do you care?
• Who benefits from it but yourself?
• What does your day consist of:
  • Time consumed
  • Seclusion
  • Social Media trolling
  • Delusional “plans”
  • …..worse

My friend: You deserve more than being governed by hate. Your family and companions deserve more of you. The world deserves a person who has compassion and joy – as we know in our heart of hearts, there has never been a profit that preached “hate thy neighbor”.

Life is short – and what we do with it will be remembered – either with hatred or love. And…… if there is a Redeemer – he/she will remember that as well.

When the soul cries, and there are no more tears.

I have cried for 6 hours straight…I see no end to the sadness.  Not now.  When I cry…when I’m hurt, I blog.  It seems that the emptiness that I feel finds solace in the openness of cyber space.  And this is a big one – so open up cyber wonderland and suck up the pain…because I don’t want to hold it alone any longer.

Tonight I said farewell to my dearest friend and companion.  Not a human, not a celebrity but my friend – one who loved me unconditionally – one who depended on me to be his life source, entertainment and validator.

Those that do not understand the complete life connection of certain pets (and that seems such a menial term) will never understand the bond that is created between souls.  It matters little if it is human to human- because the soul knows no boundaries nor recognizes intellectual “boxes” – only spiritual connections – and today one of my life threads – my spiritual connection – was severed, so quickly, so cruelly and so completely that I am in shock and utter pain.  The eyes reaching for me to ease his pain – holding his body as the life seeped away in gasps and spasms.  I’d give so much to take away the past 6 hours – or step back to 2 weeks ago and somehow magically stop the insidious “aortic thromboembolism” that left his hind legs paralyzed and his heart a doused ember.

How I loved you my dear Daniel, the beautiful Maine Coon, with the awesome personality and the constant “chit chat”, that chose me from rescue 8 years ago and never let go of my heart and soul.  Thank you for choosing me.  Rest in Peace until we chat again.  

Recapping the Year? Perhaps a tad……but first: Happy Holidays to All from Dignity by Design!

First and foremost:
HAPPY HOLIDAYS to all and may we all have Enough….

May the holidays enlighten us to diversity, and usher in a new year of Dignity for all!

As for this year and Dignity by Design: We’ve had our ups and downs. It continues to be a challenge to enlighten the financial community on the importance of disability services and products for the disabled, veterans and elderly.  When I say may we all have Enough….I mean that we should all have enough dignity, enough respect, enough joy and enough Ability to love ourselves and feel blessed with what we do have…..

It’s not easy in these tough economic, employment and Social Media crazed times to be
grateful for the hard times, the sick times, the lonely times and the times of loss.  So with the Holidays upon us, I wish you Enough…. enough strength, love and fortune to anticipate 2015 with hope and a renewed joy!

UNEMPLOYMENT: Has the Unemployment rate “actually” gone down, or have the 1.3 Million Unemployed Americans simply been abandoned?

Revisiting Unemployment: When we go to the polls this November – keep in mind that “Political Games” are destroying Middle America.

Dignity by Design

It’s tough out there. People are still losing their homes to foreclosure, unemployment is very high, income and job stability is low, student debt is staggering.  So when the government can do something substantial for the unemployed by extending emergency (EUC) funding WHY aren’t they?

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[This is an excerpt from 12/2013; Benefits ended 1/2014; it is Now 8/18/2014]:

Renewal of Federal Unemployment Benefits Blocked in the House of Representatives
                                                  –  Posted by: Mitchell Hirsch on Dec 13, 2013

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u-8UWmvCYHA

” …….In the Senate on Wednesday, Sen. Jack Reed (D-RI) attempted to bring up his bill for a full-year renewal of EUC on the floor for a vote, but his unanimous consent request was blocked when Sen…

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LOSS….I’m tired and I’m sad….and it just keeps coming……

        

When they say loss comes in “3’s” – they never mentioned that it comes, at times, as an unending current.

“The stars are not wanted now; put out every one, Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun, Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood; For nothing now can ever come to any good.” 
 – W.H. Auden

So many…way too many…. loved ones that are facing  life and death obstacles right now – and I can’t do a thing that concretely affects the final outcome.

However, I can feel guilt – that I’m healthy.  Or guilt for not having had that last luncheon or phone call or birthday cupcake…………..

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